@fishstickbio594
If you are in a toxic relationship with another person and you are mindful your needs will never be satisfied .
@laurel__
Thanks for this Doc. I have been in recovery for an abusive relationship for the last 20 months, but recently ended a deeply codependent friendship with a very toxic friend who demonstrated most if not all of the behaviours and effects shown in this video. Great information. Thanks for posting.
@KittyKat-4
Thanks! I am actually getting into my trauma response!! You are helping me 🔐crack the code. This self-sacrificing mind-set was drilled into me with my Catholic religion and the Signs of the Cross ✝ as a way to "DO" relationship loyalty. So my loyalty to God is to put others first, and this is the subconscious programming and trauma due to strict upbringing to DO for others FIRST. I was happy to do this for others, but did not realize that, as a child at least, I desperately needed (and maybe only needed) someone to actually DO for me. Children NEED stuff! I got nothing in the way of love and care from two narcissistic parents. For more information, please see my other comment, Doc and everyone. Thank you.
@copywritergrzegorz
This channel is so good its really hard to belive it exist. Thank You Doc Snipes. Great hair btw.
@fightswithspirits915
I can listen to you all day long.
@BREAKOUT444
Doc... You have helped me so much... I just want to say thank you for giving me the sight to recognize toxicity and the strength in myself to leave the toxic. Hope you're doing great! Much love ❤️
@chilloften
This was great convo to have. My career field is extremely toxic., I work really hard at trying to improve my interactions with others. A lot of times though, it feels like it’s not working, at work.
@melissarey2973
I really needed this about 5 days before it was posted in preparation for helping some family move. It's here now and can help me reframe things. 😊
@hippietrap
I always get a little confused by not allowing these toxic behaviors from others but also not having conditional love. Cuz to me it’s like if you can’t treat me with respect and consideration then why do you deserve my love and attention.
@everilliem3292
This really put into perspective how toxic to myself I really still am at times, I do so many of the listed behaviours. And I've let people in my life exhibit toxic behaviours that I let slide due to attachment issues/fear of loneliness etc Thank you for your work! You really are helping people out here! I just hope more people can discover your wonderful content. Only nitpick I have was about your definition guilt, I don't like the word "should", I feel it is inherently toxic (ironic given the context) Using 'should' in the past tense indicates holding on to regret in my opinion, or, not letting go of something or someone that did not work well in the past I think of guilt as simply, doing something that goes against your moral compass, one way or the other, very black and white. 'I did said action, I feel guilty, therefore I know I'm not okay with what happened/that action, I won't do it again" Easier said than done most days honestly, but I feel looking at it in this sense puts a clear defining line at the end point of that event in your life, allowing you to acknowledge then move on. As opposed to feeding your brain the "could of" "should of" rumination diet. Hope they made sense, and I understand it probably was a very generalised statement regarding guilt, I just think it's something worth thinking about for people.
@merkeyyt
hey doc! Just went over this topic today trying to implement. Thanks for the content
@mattymcrips
So much ability to share such valuable knowledge in an understandable way.
@devinl8487
You are a brilliant person who offers so much useful advice. I am thankful I found your channel. I hope your channel grows because that means you will help more people.
@ProductionCowbell
Thank you for doing this. 🙏🏻
@unite9383
this is so powerful , thank you! God bless you for doing what you do and helping others like me
@fistOFjustice91
I recently got broken up with by people who exhibited some of these toxic behaviors. Invalidation was one of the most overt thing they did. I wasn't able to express my feelings about something they did without being told my feelings were "entitled" or without them making my feelings about themselves. It's frustrating, in hindsight, that I was attached to that group for so long. They were all I had. This video also made me realize how toxic I am to myself at times. That really clears up a lot for me. Thank you for this video, it taught me a lot!
@philliphedges9972
I am exhausted doing exactly what you gave a lecture on. Ugh.Thank you Dr. I need to know its okay to think about me however it feels very uncomfortable.
@JulyBay
35:40 solution to how to address toxic behavior in self and others
@sassyperry6382
Thank you, Dr. Snipes!
@DocSnipes